Hi Lovelies! I am back today with a lot on my mind. One of the main reasons I started my blog was to empower women, to help women love themselves and respect each other. Let me dive into a quick story. Last night I googled one of the very famous fashion blogger online and found a website where women were bashing the poor girl in whatever shape or form possible! At first I sat there and read it out loud to my husband, the whole time laughing at the naivety and sheer jealousy of these women but at any mention of the word “jealousy” they will turn the tables around then collectively bash the accuser. Soon it became darker and gloomier, my laugh faded. Their jealousy according to them was a sign of them caring for the blogger’s mental issues (which of course the ladies had collectively concocted as well)
Fast Forward to today. I had been furiously working away in my cubicle when one of my college friend decides to Instant message me. We were talking about the fast approaching summer and how we all need to get in shape. The last time my college friend(a male) and I had met was in 2009 when I weighed a mere 93 pounds. Now I am exactly at 120 perfect for my height only I am alil heavy on my lower body and curvy over all. One thing leads to another and my friend who hasnt seen me in person in years based off of my pictures chooses to tell me that I am now officially over weight. My first instinct was to laugh how can someone call me fat? I was always told I am skinny and just when I thought I am the right weight I am accused of being fat ? My next reaction was to get hurt and act defensive. So just because my pictures made me look super bottom heavy I would be labelled overweight or fat. If this is how I am being treated then how harsh is this world really to women who are slightly large? It just saddened me and I felt I needed to say something in hopes someone will listen to me.
These stories made me realize that women are continuously molded and twisted to fit a certain shape or form! It made me realize that we will never be perfect in anyone’s eyes thanks to the media! We will be always be too skinny, too fat, too crazy and too whatever!
Look at the picture of Kim Kardashian attached below that were by mistake released by Complex.com before they were photoshopped. Feel free to read the retouching they did to her here if you cant spot any immediately
Well then guess what? We have to take it upon ourselves to fix our own selves! our own lives, our own esteem and happiness. No one will come and patch it up for us. Wear things that make YOU happy not them. Put on makeup that makes you look the prettiest in the mirror not them. You want to work out? get in shape? do it for yourself! do it for health reasons. Don’t care what they say!
Media has taught each one of us to be critical of other women. Women walking past you will look you up and down and will try to weigh you as to where you fit in and where they fit in within the society. We collectively have to break out of this mold of insanity and just be ourselves!
Please feel free to comment and share your thoughts and stories! I would love to hear from you and what you are doing to make your life more happy and positive for yourself and not for them 🙂