Must Read: Is Being Civil Online too much to ask for?



Hi lovelies,

As my regular readers most of you know that my blog was started as a positive space for women. Where I can promote love and civility between our female species. Unfortunately it saddens me to realize that somehow the message is getting lost in space. I need to find out a better way of incorporating that as a theme of my blog that will stand out enough for infrequent visitors of my blog.

I am tired of the negativity I constantly witness online being thrown from one female to another. The minor details sometimes someone will point out that wouldn’t stand out to a regular browser of the blog to give someone a bad day or feeling. Thankfully I haven’t had that many brush ups with negative comments as I have seen some really brilliant bloggers having to deal with. But of course atleast a few had to land in my lap too right?

I have numerous times talked about this issue in real life that people should look into details provided before laughing off an issue that potentially could be a serious problem with someone. But this seems to be a common issue with most human beings these days especially the female population that in order to make themselves look better, they would topple and climb over as many other females as possible.

I understand doing things like this in person or face to face because you don’t have enough time to process what comes out of your mouth but online? On a blog? as a blogger? on a post? Most bloggers spend time thinking, creating and editing their posts to provide quality work to their readers. So how come in this whole span of time someone thinks its appropriate to be mean? Its worst when it comes from a somewhat established blogger.

I have constantly also told people around me that it’s best to not say anything if you have nothing positive to say. It really makes me wonder people’s intention when they outgoingly say cruel things to their friends, coworkers or anyone else for that matter.

When all else fails and we know we can’t change the world right away. And that world can only be changed one person at a time. I am going to leave you with this message:

If you are on the receiving end of a negative comment and you did nothing to instigate it then you know you are doing something right. People spend time to make you look bad because they saw something in you to begin with in the first place that bothered them about themselves.

So ladies lets keep our heads high when those negative comments are thrown your way and keep your lips sealed when it comes to negativity because change needs to start from within us and we have to be the change we want to see in the world.

8 thoughts on “Must Read: Is Being Civil Online too much to ask for?

  1. I agree with you! I think it’s great if we have more people who foster positive environment. Hoping it would affect people positively. Just delete negative comments, I’m sorry but I don’t believe in freedom of speech especially when it comes to people putting others down. I’m worse than the FCC.

    • I totally agree with you on freedom of speech part. I feel everyone has a right to their opinion but there is a fine line between what needs to be said for the greater good vs you are just being mean and if something falls in the latter category then people just need to keep their mouth shut otherwise I loose all respect for them.

  2. Great post! I’m a “baby blogger” and have yet to receive a negative post, and I’m dreading the inevitable day. Way to keep your head high and way to come at this head on.

  3. I completely agree with this post, I think it’s such a shame these days that females so often resort to negative comments and emotional attacks when they feel threatened want to validate themselves. It’s true that it’s often just a reflection on their own insecurities. Hope you keep up the positive outlook, and don’t let them get to you!

  4. The same issue has been in my mind as well. I have recently witnessed online bullying on instagram and was so disgusted. These were grown women in their late 20s and beyond that were spreading their negativity. Gross! Women should pull each other up not bring each other down great post!

  5. Girl you’re an inspiration and an excellent advocate for positive thinking as well as acting. I wish more people thought before they spoke – would make for a much more peaceful, drama free platform for everyone else 🙂 Thanks for the post!

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