Motivation 101: You decide who and what you want to be!

Hi lovelies,

Lets get some motivation going. Positive thoughts and positive energy…let’s spread it around.  Are you tired of feeling like someone who doesn’t fit in? someone who always feels like the odd ball? Someone who people constantly seem to not understand where you are coming from? Someone who struggles to explain yourself all the time even knowing you have nothing but the best of intentions? Well if you answered yes to all or atleast a few of these questions then worry not my friend, you and I have alot in common and I might just have found a way to resolve our mutual problem.


Most of my solutions come out in forms of sayings! For those of you who have been reading my motivation posts regularly might just have caught onto that by now. So this weeks saying that lead me to a solution is: “You can feel that you stick out like a sore thumb or you can feel that you were born to stand out”

Now lets play a scenario here. You are hanging out with a group of people who surprisingly seem to mesh pretty well. They think you are cool and all but everytime an idea or concept comes up you seem to be the one who doesnt agree with the rest of the group. You tend to start noticing a pattern. You just aren’t like the rest of them. Now let’s multiply this one group into several groups. This happens to you alot. And people just seem to turn their head sideways and look at you all weird. My next question will be ask yourself if your difference of opinion going to harm someone? is it going to cause any trouble? is it going to offend anyone? is it racist? is it illegal? If you answered no to all these question then why should you be ashamed of your decision? If you have good intention and your idea is just as good as theirs or well opinion (hahaha okay it might just be a tad bit better than theirs but we wont tell them that sshh) then there is no reason for you to feel like you have to agree with them. Speak your mind and speak it out loud and proud.

Now here is a mistake we all make. We tend to freak out at our difference of opinion. Some of us either nod and say oh well nah you all are right or others just drop the topic feeling meek and alone. But you know what? why should you do that? The first step to being the strong YOU is to state your opinion out loud. Don’t feel bad. Isnt that what everyone else just did, in the group? They all spoke their mind. Well lucky for them that there is more of them in one place. Now think what if there was only one of them and more people like you in that group? ROLE REVERSAL. They will feel like the odd ball and guess what? EVERYONE GOES THROUGH THAT! Everyone is an odd ball somewhere in their life and that is what makes us human and different from each other.  Yes some people might snicker or laugh about it but then guess what? They are immature and do you really want to take immature people’s opinion seriously? If you are willing to see difference of opinion as a normal thing and they don’t, then it’s their problem and not yours. They need to grow up and learn the world was built for all of us be like robots built in a factory.

You don’t want to be like everyone else. You want to stand out. And as I said it is you who decides who and what you want to be… You could make it painful and feel like you stick out like a sore thumb or stand out as someone confident who has their own set of opinions and wont sway just because everyone blindly or not so blindly agrees with a certain topic.

Motivation 101: When you are down…how to get back up! Athletes Mentality and Cold Showers

Hey Lovelies,

Stick around for how my injury will be your motivation after my mini injury story:).


I had been a little blue for a week or two because of an unexpected injury! Haha like we ever expect injuries? Ah but you know what I mean. I had been getting really close to the best shape of my life when about 3 Fridays ago at the gym, I had a severe shooting calf pain. I tried to ignore it for a few minutes but then my knee started to hurt real bad. I couldn’t feel my leg for a good half an hour and I just was in excruciating pain, sitting looking silly on the gym floor. Anyways so the doctor’s diagnosis is tendonitis in my ankles, calf and knees! Great what does that mean? No working out for a month and a half. Oh but he said I can swim. Did I mention I don’t know how to swim? Well I did take swimming as  physical education in college for 4 weeks but I didn’t really get far. And due to not swimming regularly I haven’t been able to master it at all.

Now how do you take advantage from my ordeal and use it to your advantage? So ofcourse just like anyone who has been running, cardio dancing, playing basket ball and what not to get in shape when I was told to sit on my butt I was pretty depressed. I won’t lie I am still struggling with it. And oh the work I did is slowly vanishing. But something hits me! I wasn’t always this person who got depressed over injuries like this or someone to whom pain mattered! I coin this as an Athlete’s mentality. I recall in school growing up (pre-college days that is), the only event I was ever interested in was the Sports week. I participated in whatever I could running track to relays, badminton and God knows what all. And it hurt, hurt real bad but I didn’t care. I recall carrying a tube of muscle relaxant around and rubbing it on several times a day then going back to whatever training I had planned for the day. I would like to say the younger me was much more stronger than the new older me! The new me is weak and frail not because I am physically weak and frail. It is because that is who I have mentally become! Look at American football players or any other Athlete for that matter. They get surgeries and few weeks or months later they are out and about playing their sport again. As my husband stated “Pain doesn’t stop them. It is just an obstacle they need to get past. Some sort of annoyance that can be fixed and forgotten”. I understand not all injuries are alike so consult your doctor before trying funny antics but honestly its somewhat power of positive thinking too here.
So why can’t you use this athlete’s mentally in other parts of your life? Yes its great being used for a situation like mine. When you fall pick yourself back up…plan better and keep going. An injury or life blow is just an obstacle which you will fix and move on from. We are as weak as we tell ourselves we are. I spent 2.5 years of my life not being active! Gave up on running and gave up on sports because of my Plantar Fasciitis – Haha yes I know I just have bad legs 🙂 but the moment I stopped caring about the pain, it didn’t matter no more. Sometimes just sitting makes our muscles weaker and weaker. We need to use them to make them stronger.  Sometimes chanting you can do it, will help you do what you need to achieve.

And cold showers can help. You must be thinking I am talking crazy here but honestly that is your first test! I was told by my doctor to ice my legs 3 to 5 times a day so taking my steaming showers seemed alittle out of question. I being the crazy IT person that I am google everything! so I googled cold showers…why? I don’t know but it has proven very useful. Some guy wrote an entire 5 page article about how people who will refuse to take a cold shower are just plain unmotivated and always take life easy. I was laughing the article off when the more and more I read, the more sense it made! Why can’t I take a cold shower? Oh cause it will make me uncomfortable but maybe I should train myself to get past the uncomfortable. Learn that things aren’t always going to be my way and I just have to move on the best way I can. Literally 5 minutes later I was in the bathroom with water running in the tub with the tap handle on the cold side. It was scary at first and I had a few shallow breaths but I did it! Soon the water started feeling warmer. My body’s ability to adapt kicked in! You see where I am going with this? YOU ARE AS STRONG AS YOU MAKE YOURSELF! And now for the past 3 weeks all I do is take cold showers! Its getting easier everyday. Oh and trust me ladies there are benefits to taking cold showers. Your hair gets really healthy and shiny! We will have to talk about that in another post. And guy it also helps eliminate aches and pains.

So if you are scared of doing something…start with a cold shower. Obtaining little uncomfortable goals will help you get farther in life 🙂 I am sure some of you just like me are now running to take a cold shower while others are just shaking your head thinking what a crazy girl! But guess what if it helped me I am sure it is going to help some more people out there. The Athletes mentality and cold showers are your best weapons so use them 🙂